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Who's Life Is this!

Did you ever wake up one morning and ask "Who's Life Is this"?

"Warning": This is a downer post you may want to move on and read someone else posts.....

That's what I have been doing the past few days.

It all started awhile back after reading some posts about a book called "Created to be his help meet" I decided to step back abit and let my husband make most the decisions for the family. I have always been the one to take care of most everything especially the money in our family, My husband would hand me his paycheck each week and I would work with it (I didn't do a great job of it but the bills did get paid). I handed over the worries & bill paying job to my husband. He has a painting business with a 25 year old as his partner.  He works 7 days a week now, and he says we have no money. He tells me in conversation how they just got this big check from this guy and that job ect. but then there is never any money to work with....

He doesn't pay any of our bills until they are ready to shut it off or it is turned off.  He did tell me once that the 25 year old partner doesn't want his wife to know how much he is making so he wants to leave the money in the business account so she won't know! I would never have thought my husband would think of doing something like that to me but I am leaning towards that is what is happening. He has said to me "What do I need you for now?" & "You don't do anything but take care of the house". The one that hurt the most is: "I'm just keeping you around to babysit the kids so I don't have to hire a sitter, When they are 18 I am out of here"......

Things sure have back fired for me! Instead of getting my husband more involved -  It seems I have worked my way into not being needed or valued any more !

Thank you for letting me vent about this problem, I pray each day that things will get better.

Bad day

{ 08:52, 2006-Nov-27 } { Posted by karenhuse }

Yup that was a downer post, but if you talk about it maybe some one can help. Everyone gets sad and when you are home all the time with the kids it can get lonely and too routine if you don't have a good group of friends. I suggest you meet up with them, and go out to lunch. It should make you feel better espically if you get a yummy dessert to go with it! What your husband says to you is not good and very hurtful but hopefully he does not mean it, and is proubably just trying to get a reaction out of you. I hope things get better.
Karen

What is he thinking?

{ 10:22, 2006-Nov-27 } { Posted by Pattisea }

Your husband may say such things, but it is quite obvious he DOES need you, since things are not getting done until the last minute, etc.

I think you did the right thing letting him take over the bills, etc. If he means the unkind things he says, there is a seperate issue that needs to be taken care of (in other words, turning over finances to him has not CAUSED it).

I will be praying for you and your husband that God will direct both of you, and that you will both be obedient to HIm-walking in love and peace with each other.

God Bless you, dear!

Patti

Edited by Pattisea on 2006-Nov-27 at 10:23

bills...

{ 08:43, 2007-Feb-10 } { Posted by happywife }

I know this is a few months late, but I just joined here and read your post. Did you hand over the bills to your husband because he wanted you to, or because you thought that being a submissive wife meant you had to? I too have the book "Created...", and I have learned so much about becoming the wife God wants me to be. However, if your husband wants you to handle the bills, then it would be helping him for you to do it. I was just wondering if he felt you forced him into this and then is resentful...??