• Wednesday, November 28, 2007 - Starting back and answers
I will be starting back on Friday cleaning house for my friend. I use to clean houses twice a week. I did before I went to work for a dentist. I liked the flexible of cleaning houses. I was not getting rich. I only charge 50 to clean. My mom lives up close to Columbus Ohio, and she says I am way to cheap. But I figure two houses at 50 each would be an extract 100 a week to help out. I am one who can not stand to owe money. It was just the way I was raised. My grandpa always paid things off before they were due. I have been trying to come up with ways to pay these doctor and hospital bills off. I have 2 hospital bills and 4 doctor bills that our insurance did not pay for. A total of 1600 plus. It is just driving me crazy. I guess I just needed to vent a little.
Maa, had asked me about doing cakes. I had tried once before to sell them and I didn`t do all that great. I am planning on trying it again. Maybe have a little faith in myself. I guess around here you have to have the right connections. I am also planning on trying to get my candies started. My peanut butter balls, chocolate mints and etc. It is just hard doing homemade stuff around here because everyone does it. I have often thought about an online business but I would not have a clue where to begin. The other day I was reading our small town newspaper. Two more craft and candy stores open up. Here is how small my neck of the woods is. We have a total of two stop lights in the whole town. 5 mins you have drove thur town. We have four big gas stations, BP, and Shell, etc. 7 hair salons. 3 flower shops. 2 quilting and sewing shops. It is like with pumpkins roll, this time of the year, everyone makes them and sell them. I know of 5 homemakers clubs. Three or four quilting clubs. Well anyway, I am going to work on some more ideas on how I can help make money for the bills.
I will tell you all why I have been worrying about this. See when it comes to money dh is horrible at. He likes to keep us overdrawn. He thinks money is endless in the bank. He uses that debt card and writes check. I am all the time having to tell him WATCH what you spend. I have the bank email when the amount gets below a certain amount. I got one yesterday. I checked the bank sure enough it was down pretty low. I called him and told him not to use his debt card that it may cause us to be overdrawn. Which I got another email today, I say we are overdrawn about 3xs now. I haven`t looked yet. He gets mad and starts yelling at me that he is the one paying the overdraft charges. He told me that I am not the paying them he is. It is his money. Ok it made mad. I am the one who takes care of the house, he never does housework, never. We have lived in our house for almost 10 year, he has washed dishes twiced. Ran the vacumm cleaner maybe 4xs. Every once in a while he will do a load of jeans or towels. I do the biggest part of the yard work. I do all the morning feeding and taking care of the animals. Sometimes I have the evening chores done before he gets home. I have his dinner cooked for him when he comes home. I fix his plate for him and bring it to him. I fix his drink and bring it. Not to mention I don`t only wait on the kids, I wait on him when he is home. When the kids were little I never asked him to get up during the night. I did all. I was really upset with him yesterday when he told me it was his money. I guess I should shut up. Everyone has their problems and no one wants to hear mine.
Don't feel that no one wasnts to hear your problems!--get it out and if no one reads it that is ok too. We are not hear to judge anyone. I have my share of problems to and I blog about it everyonce in a while and it makes me feel better. PM me if you need to get it out and I totally understand about your hubby saying this. been then done it kinda thing.
take care and blog all you want!
Sweetmama
Thank you. Sometimes he just drives me crazy. sometimes I think it is better to let it out, then letting it grow bigger inside.
Edited by farmgal35 on Wednesday, November 28, 2007 at 06:10
I don't mind hearing your problems, at all. In fact I totally understand and it helps to vent.
I was doing like you are, doing it all, even the the outside work by myself.I was over worked and worn out.I never got much rest.
That all change when I got sick. I felt like God was telling me to go rest for a while. I still try to do it all but then I get to feeling so bad that i am down for two or three days. Again I think God is telling me to rest.
I have learned to just let the work go and now my husband does it. It took him a while to get sick of the grass being knee high, however he did and he started mowing.It was soo hard for me to just let it go since I was a worker, always doing something.
You know, I think it is strange that some men get up in the night with their babies or change a diaper. My husband never did these things.
Now that my husband helps with these chores he aks me how in the world did I do it all.
In many ways my sickness has been a blessing to me and my children.God is in charge of ALL things and sometimes what we think is bad turns out to be a blessing.
What would happen if you stoped worrying about the bills. Just let your husband take charge of them since it is HIS money. Just put that burden on him, I think it is the man's duty to provide financially for the family.Once you start working again it will just be more money for him to spend. Besides you already have more than a full load to carry.I know because I have been there. The more money that I made then the more money my husband spent. He started playing golf because we could afford it since I was working.
I finnaly realized that I was carrying the load of two people while he was busy playing.I told him that if the bill couldn't be paid then he would need to give up his games or get a third job.Well, he got a third job.
I don't know what type of man your husband is, mine is a very selfish man.His needs and wants come first.
maa's mom
I love my hubsand but yes he is very selfish. His needs come before mine. Which I guess it is a good thing that I am one that doesn`t require much. Fishing trips comes before family trips. I try hard not to speak ill of him. But sometimes he does some stupid things and it just drives me crazy. I guess he does come by it honestly. His whole family is like that. He has always work. But he just can not manage money. I have threaten to turn all the bills over for him to pay and take care of but I am so afraid they wouldn`t get paid. God will work all out for me. Thanks for listening. sheryl
Edited by farmgal35 on Wednesday, November 28, 2007 at 06:02
I am a stay-at-home, Christian homeschooling mom. My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We have been blessed with three kids,ages 18, 10 and 8. We live on a family farm and have several animals. I`m just a simple farm gal, who loves her God, family, friends and life.
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take care and blog all you want!
Sweetmama
Thank you. Sometimes he just drives me crazy. sometimes I think it is better to let it out, then letting it grow bigger inside.
Edited by farmgal35 on Wednesday, November 28, 2007 at 06:10