Be Ye Separate

What do you do with family?

Blessings!

   So the question is in my title! What DO you do with family? Oh I know that's a rather loaded question for some but for me it's more of an exasperated question.

   I've never really shared much about my family. It's not that I'm ashamed of my family (though there are THINGS that have happened that have caused me to feel shame FOR some of them), I just don't always feel that it's relevant to say much about them. It's their life afterall...right?

   Okay, let me cut to the chase...my brother has informed my mother that I have somehow "disowned" him publicly in some forum or other because he's atheist. Hmmmmm. Does that sound like me? Well, I looked through all my blog and can't find anywhere that I alluded to such a thing so I looked at the couple of groups Im' a member of and couldn't find anything there either. Then I decided to do a "search" I tried several different search engines from Lycos to Google, from WebCrawler to Dogpile. Here's what I found...I'm not the only coveredchristian or sisterlori out there! Imagine that! (Yes I'm being sarcastic). Although I didn't read through their things too closely I didn't see anything in their things either.

   The things my brother accused me of as well as the terrible things he said of my husband and even about my parents just made me so bothered. I spent a few sleepless nights and LOTS of prayer trying to make sense of it. I still have no idea where he would have seen such things but I am done being tied up in knots over it now:)

   I just wanted to say, just in case my brother does manage to find this blog (perhaps I'll email it to him so he can see it), that my what my brother believes has no bearing on whether or not I "disown" him. Do I care that he isn't a believer? Yes! But I don't disown him for NOT believing.

   You know, it just occurred to me...I wouldn't have called him an atheist anyway because he's not one. He's agnostic. He KNOWS he's agnostic...so why would he use the word atheist? Maybe because someone else with a covered christian blog/forum/group/site might have a brother that IS one.

   I have never shared too much about my brother but since I'm accused of it I want to share the truth...don't worry I'm not being spiteful, just want you to know about him:)

   I have NEVER mentioned names of my family except for my husband and children and my two grandsons. Yes this would include our children who no longer live with us:) And I won't start now because I feel it's his business to do that.

   Here's the lowdown. I have two brothers. One is a troll...and I do mean a real troll. He lives under bridges, has been in prison more than he's been under the bridges. He's hateful, mean and abusive. HIM...I disowned many years ago...now lets not confuse that with the brother I'm writing about:)

   The GOOD brother, is agnostic. He doesn't believe in God, Jesus, Holy Spirit and such but he does believe in a greater being. A creator of sorts. (it's a start):) I am pretty sure his wife believes although she's not obviously religious. They have a daughter that I do believe is atheist or at least agnostic like her dad. Their other daughter was baptized some time ago and what she does for churching I don't know. They live in Wisconsin and I don't see or hear from them.

   We visited them when we went back east last year. We traveled across country for nearly 7 weeks in our camper and they were on the way:) Anyway we enjoyed the visit and even discussed the possibility of moving nearer to them since he's all the family I will have left when our parents are gone.

   Well, brother dear, here it is. I love you. I send a Christmas card every year. I think of you often. I pray for you daily. It would be nice to hear from you once in awhile. A card. A letter. A phonecall. AFter all the road goes both ways:)

   I think this was a silly post and I pray that no one thinks that I am in any way "airing" anything or that I'm trying to be hurtful. It's not my intention at all. I just want to be sure that my brother has a clear understanding about how I really feel about him. And thank you mom for letting me know. Next time you "defend" me, give him my new number:) I would love to talk with him. He is after all my big brother:)

God be with thee!

little Sister Lori:)

Family

{ 23:40, Monday, December 10, 2007 } { Posted by smmagers }

I am sorry that you are having trouble with your brother. I can not see you saying anything about him that is bad. You pray for him , send him cards and stuff, that shows love. I understand what you are saying. I have a step-sister we were so close for many years you would have never knowen we came together as a family when she was 6 and I was 12. But she has changed and is not a part of our lives. I love my sister very much. But I do not like her at this time. I pray that she will turn her life around. The best we can do is turn them over to the Lord and watch him do his work. God Bless. mj

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{ 05:26, Tuesday, December 11, 2007 } { Posted by Kitty }

OH how I feel your pain. I too have a good one and a not so good one. I have bit my tongue on soooo many occasions not to stir up strife in my family. I guess all we can do, is pray for them..........Kitty

I will be in prayer for you!

{ 07:31, Tuesday, December 11, 2007 } { Posted by specialmom42000 }

Sister Lori...
I will be in prayer for you and your brother. It hurts worse when someone you love and care about hurts you more than when it is just someone we know.

I am sorry for your hurt...Here is a big hug for you dear! {{{{{{{LORI}}}}}}

Blessings dear, and remember, I will keep you and your brother in prayer!
Blessings, Kelly in MI

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{ 19:34, Tuesday, December 11, 2007 } { Posted by rildapeel1 }

God knows our hearts and I am sure that as you know working to bring His will into the lives of all so Jesus didn't die in vain. Having God's heart for those that are untouchable and unloveable and forgive them is devine. When I got saved it was in such a non traditional way that my family members even said I was demon possessed. They are Christians and have been for many years. So I had to give up something or better yet say they gave me up which made me have a more reason to come closer to finding my purpose.
We all have different way of finding harmony and peace in our lives although with God leading we come to completion. I believe that this with your brother will turn out for the good because YOU LOVE HIM. We owe no one anything but to love him. Blessings Always, rilda *U*