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11:17, Friday, December 29, 2006 .. Posted in Household Planning .. 2 comments .. Link

I don't know if it's the thought of beginning a new year, or if it's just that I'm starting to feel more human after the baby's birth, or if this is some cycle that I must go through over and over, or what; but I'm once again pondering the life I (we) choose to lead, and, basically, how and in what ways to improve it. I think the "improvement" urge is a female thing which goes right back to Eve in the garden of Eden (and therefore I don't know if it's a good urge or a bad urge, LOL), but at any rate, I think all us women have it.

It's not that I'm dissatisfied with our life here in general. It's just that I'm always pretty sure there must be a way to do it faster, better, easier, more effectively, more quickly, with greater success, with less resources, and with more time left over at the end of it to do what I really want to do. What it is that I "really want to do" in that left over time, I'm not actually quite sure. I never seem to have that magical minute.

At any rate, the general gist of what I'm trying to do, is to control my time and resources. I don't want to waste anything, and I want to make a difference in the world. I want to make as much difference to those outside my family as I can, without sacrificing those inside my family. I suspect somehow that if I can control all these minutes and dollars of family life, that somehow at the end of it there will be minutes and dollars enough to share with someone else -- someone less fortunate.

Fine. But here's the catch. I'm a lazy perfectionist control freak with serious prioritization problems. That is soooo bad a combination. Soooooo bad.

Because I'm lazy, I want everything scheduled, planned and budgeted. That way I don't have to think about what to do, I'll just know what to do and I'll do it, because it's written down and already thought out. Because I'm a control freak, I want the schedule to never have unexpected events or interruptions, and I want everyone to go along with it. And be happy about it. And no-one call me on the phone or stop by, because it interrupts things. Because I'm a perfectionist, I want the schedule to be totally workable every day in every way, with no glitches, with every activity and event planned down to the minute so that no time is wasted. Because I have trouble prioritizing, I don't know where to begin or what is the most important thing to do, or what to do first, last or whatever. Throw in 2 homeschoolers, a toddler and a new baby, and a hubby who works stupid hours and is on call 24/7, and you see my dilemma.

I don't know if I should have a goal? Should I make one? I have lots of goals. I have even more ideas that I'd like to turn into goals. But what is conceivable? What is achievable? What is achievable FOR ME, more to the point?

Aaack. I better just stop there.

At any rate, the one thing I know is that there is One who does have the answers, and I do go to Him every day! Of course I never have the time I need to ask all the questions I want to ask -- inevitably the baby starts to cry or the kids need lunch or someone is fighting or falling off something, or hubby comes home from work or whatever....

Does YOUR life work? Do YOU live as frugally as you'd like? Do YOU have the devotional and spiritual development times you need to have? Is YOUR house as clean as it needs to be? Do YOU help those less fortunate as much as you wish? Do YOU have no (ok, I'm willing to accept "few") areas that need improvement? (Do you have as many children as me, LOL?) If you do have it together, COMMENT. Please. Leave me your blog address. I just wanna see how it's done.

If you DON'T have it together, but are at peace with whatever it is you do have, I also want to hear from you. Because if it's impossible to get it together, but still possible to be at peace with God and man over it, I'd like to know that secret too.

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03:38, Sunday, December 31, 2006 .. Posted by naughtydebbers
It's just me. Sorry. I just wanted to say, I love you! and I think you're doing great. Really, really, really, I do. I look up to you in SOOO many ways.

--Deb

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12:30, Monday, January 1, 2007 .. Posted by 4byGodsgrace
"I'm a lazy perfectionist control freak with serious prioritization problems."
I think you just described me as well! :O)
Seriously, I think we all go through phases. One of the things that I have really found helpful in being organized and keeping our home running smoothly is to simplify. In every way possible simplify. If you don't have more than you need of any given thing, there is less to be left around or disorganized with. For us clothes and books are a constant struggle. We cut back on the amount of clothing we have and I do at least one load of laundry every day (2 if you count the diapers) Books is more a downfall of mine and one I struggle with all the time.....
We also have 4 children (9,8,23mo,7mo)

I hope that helps a bit! I'm going to list you as a friend so I can check back with you. If you ever have a question or want to vent...drop me a line!:O)

God bless,
Kelley
(4byGodsgrace)

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