This hasn't been the most productive day around here. I mean, it hasn't been the worst we've ever had, but still, I know so much more could have gotten done. I did get a denim jacket, 3 dresses, 3 aprons, 4 pairs of bloomers, 4 sets of boxers and 4 kapps cut out for sewing. Lord knows when I'll get to the sewing part, but they are ready for me now.
Eldest son and Dad will be home this weekend. Eldest son wil be loading up his storage unit and he and his fiance (who's been staying here all month) will be heading back to Arkansas.
It's not nice to say, but I am so so looking forward to having everyone gone from here. We have had a hard time with Dad being gone, but honestly, we just haven't had a chance to adjust to Dad being gone from the family. The day he left to head down for this job, our friend/neighbor called with 'dysfunctional family issues' going on and their 17 year old son needed to come over her for a couple of days. Just what I needed. Like rocks in my head.
Dysfunctional family issues subside and then here comes son's fiance. She isn't remotely Plain or conservative or unworldly in the least. It has been one trial after another now. I'm living with attitudes that need serious deprogramming and a life that is about as upside-down as it can go.
I need time to get used to Dewey being gone. The children need time to get used to Dewey being gone. We just need time to decompress from the chaos we've been thrust under in the past month. Everyone is back-talking, everyone has made really poor choices as to what they need to be doing daily around here...no one has touched more than a lesson or two of schooling the past month. They are constantly arguing over things that are settled and carved in stone around here.
We need to regroup and restablish the long-running Rules of This House for everyone. We need a refresher course in proper attitudes, proper dress and proper direction of and from authority.
What we need...what we are going to have here...is Boot Camp 101. We are going to get back to the brass tacks of things. Basic and simple. No 'demoncratic style' whatsoever. I will speak, they will listen and follow directions. I will be assigning every moment of every day and some freedom will be given after a time of adjustment has been completed. No bathroom breaks, no talking without being spoken to first and directly, no drinks, no movement of even the tiniest little toe unless so directed and mandated by me. Everything will move along in an orderly fashion according to the schedule I set out daily.
Just like life in the real world here. You don't get to choose when you wake up and start your day. It's chosen for you by your job choice, and your employer. You don't get to choose what you wear. It's chosen for you based on the decisions this family has had in place for many years. You don't live in a hotel. You don't own a restaurant. Meal time is scheduled and those not prepared go hungry until the next meal. I don't run a short-order kitchen. Every single thing you do in your life is governed by someone else. That's how life works in this world, and that's how it will be working around here until we get back to where we belong.
Eldest children will receive the deepest punishment --
1) they know better. They have lived under the same rules their entire life. They know what is expected, what is and will be tolerated and what will not. They have full and total recall of all rules and consequences they have lived under for however many years. They are conscious enough to make their decisions and know full well wht will happen if those choices do not line up with the family standards.
And, 2) it all trickles down through the ranks. If the olders are brought back under subjection, the youngers don't have issues of authority. They see that it is simply how things work.
I will be the supreme power of life on this homestead until things are back to some sense of normalcy again. No more free choice/free will allowed. Period. I don't do the "this family is a democracy" mumbo-juumbo very well at all. Things are not gray -- things are either black or they are white. But never are they both. You listen; you follow rules and direction the first time you are told; you obey with a spirit of joy and a smile on your face; you put a full effort, 100% of your energy and heart into it. Afterwards, once this or that direction is followed and completed, you may come to appeal the priority of said direction. Give me a viable argument with sound research and we'll discuss it, and it will be taken under advisement for next time. But don't give me some sobby little whine and wimper rant about it. That's just a poor attitude and a poor plan of action. Save that tact with your boss at McDonald's/Wendy's/Burger King/etc., when you are flipping burgers for a living, lamenting your poor childhood and lack of direction and foundation.
We need this in this household right now. The sooner the better. Time to pray over the doorposts and anoint the corners of every room and push the spirits of the world back out to the curb where they belong.
Saturday, October 18, 2008 - <em>Untitled Comment</em>
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Cripe are you a mom or a loud mouth boss who is the know These are your children and yet you sound like such a nasty cold hearted person.
Why would you want your DS to be with a "plain" girl. Plain girls live under rocks and get stepped on the time. Good for her, let her be here own person and LIVE. Take it from her you could learn something.
~~I'm very much a loud-mouth boss.
God didn't give me these children so I could sit back and watch them get run over by the idiots living under the rocks out there in the 'real world.' The real world, in case your rock doesn't have the same view mine does, has nothing whatsoever to offer someone seeking the Kingdom of Heaven. It offers lots of shiny toys and a lot of rampant free will and, well, stupidity -- which seems to run amok on my comments when I voice my own opinion...oh wait, it's MY BLOG...I get to do that. You can move your rock to another blog page and life will continue like it has been...you uninformed about Godly issues and my being content with raising my children under the standards set forth in the Bible.
Btw -- I am not trying to raise my children for this world. I am raising my children for their future. I am not raising my sons to be *****-mongers and my daughters to be the *****s the world is after. It's very simple, really. They do not have a vision for a future aside from the sick world they are living in. I want more for them than drinking, drugs, loose sex and a party atmosphere.
And, plainly put so you don't have to climb out from your cave, I am raising them, training them, to seek something in life far above the garbage of the world. I never once said his fiance needed to be plain or anything of the sort, you need reading comprehension lessons I guess. This young lady was not raised under rules or moral standards that taught one to be dressed without the world seeing every inch of your body. She was not raised to learn anything aside from 'do what you want when you want and everyone else will get over it'. She has not one inch of homemaking skills, let alone mothering skills to match so much as a baboon. But, he has made his choice and he will be stuck with that choice. He will not be the leader of his home or his family with her attitude and heart where it is, and she will be miserable and so will he, but that is obviously his choice at this time. Thankfully, he was raised well and someday he will realize that to be unequally yoked brings heartache that could have been avoided. May The Lord have mercy on them both and guide them toward His Ways.
Deanna
Edited by HandsNHearts on Wednesday, October 22, 2008 at 04:23
I am glad you are getting a hold of your household again. You had me worried when you were ranting about not getting your "worldly computer" after telling us the lesson you learned in paying off your debt then grabbing it again. You were showing the same signs you are seeing in your children. I am glad you are aware and working to be in God's will. I will be praying for you. Brenda
Way to go!!! Ignore that awful comment by "anonymous". Boot Camp works and you are the one in the position to know your family and what will or won't work. Plus you have the God given authority as the head of your home while your husband is away. Oh, and did I mention that we SO need to do Boot Camp here at my house...... :-)
Haven't heard from ya'all in quite awhile. I know your frustration!!! Praying for all of you! Tell Dewey that his friend misses him. Love to all of you!
Mary
they didn't get the capital P for plain for the small c for conservative.
Not understanding what is going on is not a great place from which to comment.
IMHO.
No indulgences of self will can be trivial, no denial unprofitable; Heaven or Hell depends on this alone. A parent who studies to subdue it in his child works together with God in the renewing and saving of their soul. The parent who indulges it does the devil's work, makes religion impractical, salvation unattainable, and does all that in him lies to damn his child, soul and body, forever.
Susanna Wesley
At The School Desks
We are a Christian family desiring to raise our children with the primary focus of Training their Hearts!
I have no greater joy, than to hear my children walk in truth... III John 1:4
Train up the child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it... Proverbs 22:6
Oh, that their hearts would be inclined to fear me and keep all my commands always, so that it might go well with them and their children forever!... Deuteronomy 5:29
Our mission in life is not to go to some far-off foreign land, but to work at home and in our churches and home communities. Our goal should not be to leave behind riches and possessions, farms and homes for our children, but a priceless heritage they will cherish enough to work fervently to pass along to their children. It has been done for generations and with God's help it can still be done. In teaching our children, we are striving toward a deep understanding of who they are In Christ. I am . . . a child of God, a gift to my parents and my country. I'm a person of great value because God made me. I can . . . do all things through Christ who strengthens me. God has made me able to do everything required of me. I ought . . . to do my duty to obey God, to submit to my parents and everyone in authority over me, to be of service to others, and to keep myself healthy with proper food and rest so my body is ready to serve. I will . . . resolve to keep a watch over my thoughts and choose what's right even if it's not what I want.
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